This Tornado Loves You

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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

—(via tan-fit-healthy)

(Source: moxie-bird, via erikawithac)

chibijoshie:

fucknofetishization:

What a jackass. This is avril’s response to the backlash to her recent video, “Hello Kitty.” I swear this woman acts like she’s 15. Then of course you have people (not japanese of course) saying this wasn’t racist.

Bitch, you can sit your fucking ass down right now. The reason why your Japanese label didn’t stop you from doing any of this is because a) you’re white (aka you have white privilege) and b) the people who *work* at those labels wanna eat (aka their business with you makes *them* money). The reality is that you have power over Japanese people in their own country because of your white privilege. Also, way to be a fucking asshat and speak over  ALL the Japanese people who have called you out. Because that’s a great way to win back fans with your irrelevant ass -_-

the best part is that chad kroeger wrote the song.
they are collectively so shitty that they cannot hide it.

chibijoshie:

fucknofetishization:

What a jackass. This is avril’s response to the backlash to her recent video, “Hello Kitty.” I swear this woman acts like she’s 15. Then of course you have people (not japanese of course) saying this wasn’t racist.

Bitch, you can sit your fucking ass down right now. The reason why your Japanese label didn’t stop you from doing any of this is because a) you’re white (aka you have white privilege) and b) the people who *work* at those labels wanna eat (aka their business with you makes *them* money). The reality is that you have power over Japanese people in their own country because of your white privilege. Also, way to be a fucking asshat and speak over  ALL the Japanese people who have called you out. Because that’s a great way to win back fans with your irrelevant ass -_-

the best part is that chad kroeger wrote the song.

they are collectively so shitty that they cannot hide it.

(via faineemae)